Yes, life is like this. Control is largely an illusion.
Many of our deepest motives come, not from an adult logic of how things work in the world, but out of something that is frozen from childhood
When I got to 40 o so… I had the sense when I looked back over my life I would actually see a mess of decisions, a few of which I had thought about, some of which I had sort of stumbled on, and many that I had no control over whatsoever.
You have to accept that sometimes that’s how things happen in this world. People’s opinions, their feelings, they go one way, then the other. It just so happens you grew up at a certain point in this process.
Nobel Prize in Literature (2017)